Do parties and crowds fill you with energy, or send you scurrying for peace and quiet.
YES! I will freely admit I Googled that (INTJ). Before getting confused and lost in translation about the extroverts and introverts of 16 personalities; I managed to decipher the acronym as:
INTROVERSION, INTUITION, THINKING, JUDGEMENT
What the what? Who knew??!! Now back to my regularly scheduled opinionated program.
In my perspective parties and crowds are two entirely separate things, yet can be synonymous in characteristic. Like much else in this world it may just come down to semantics. Overall I strongly believe the favoring or disliking the atmosphere of parties and/or crowds hinges on various factors such as age, location, type of event and entertainment that one fancies. For example, you could go to a party of 20 attendees being hosted in an apartment and feel clustered, whereas a party with the same amount of people in a house would vibe more as an intimate gathering. If you hate clubs (like me) I could understand how being clobbered by hundreds of people on a Saturday night on a dance floor is a crowd that would be about as irritating as having a mosquito bite on your butt.
Crowds gather at various events including parties, sporting events, festivals, concerts, parks, beaches, amusement parks, transportation hubs, malls, clubs, grocery stores, bars etc. I’ve always found the good and bad in being around large groups of people. As for me I’d state I would be in the happy medium of enjoying and hating crowds. I don’t mind being around crowds and groups of people, but there are numerous occasions where all I wanted to do was slap the silly out of people! Especially when interacting with people who are rowdy, extremely drunk or rude. No matter the places you go there is a certain etiquette or behavior that is considered acceptable or socially normal. It is of my opinion that how and the way people act in crowds is what largely determines if they are enjoyable to be around or not. Dealing with crowds and people is a fact of life. If you don’t accept it and adapt accordingly then it is highly likely that the activities one enjoys will make one miserable.
Upon going to a football game, baseball game, or other sporting event it is safe to assume that tens, hundreds of thousands, possibly more random strangers will also be attending. YOU WILL NOT BE THE ONLY PATRON TO ENTERTAIN! Let’s take a football game since I am an avid fan. When I go to a football game I am there to support my team that I live and die by 16 weeks out of the year, possibly longer pending their playoff success. To me watching football is sacred. I don’t shell out gobs of bucks for a ticket to sit in a parking lot getting smashed, unable to utter my name and then recall nothing of what happened in the game; only to find myself sitting at the end going, “Huh? It’s over? Who won?”
Sure, I am down for a good old-fashioned tailgate, but I paid to see a game and I want to see the game and have fun. When my team scores a touchdown I want to jump up and cheer. If the ref calls a bad play I want to yell. If your team isn’t playing please don’t wear their jersey to the game and gloat about your team because I will throw a hot dog at you. I would expect my fellow fans to be of similar frame of mind in that they want to watch the game. Running around starting fights or throwing up your five Miller Lights you can’t hack just ruins the fan experience.
Similar to sporting events you will be surrounded by people of all ages and walks of life. It is amazing being at a concert venue surround by people who share your taste in genre. When that musician is singing or strumming tunes it is an experience like no other. However, there are certain butt-heads that just want to ruin the moment. Understandable that people will want to drink, but there is no need to be an obnoxious drunk and yell out annoying and rude phrases. During an intermission or break don’t stand in the middle of a pathway with friends and eating and drinking where everyone else is trying to walk.
Perhaps a more mundane everyday life scenario is escalators. Stand on the right, walk on the left. It’s a universal law. If you don’t that person is racing down almost late for work will most likely bump into you, intentionally or accidentally. It really doesn’t matter if you think they are rude or not because the bottom line is you should not be standing in the middle. You and all your baggage should be standing on the right.